Men better at detecting infidelity ?
>> Friday, November 28, 2008
Source : MyPaper dated 26th November 2008, Wednesday
(click on the picture for clearer view)
What an interesting news article claiming men is better at detecting infidelity ! Does that translate to better prevention of wearing a green hat for the guys ?
My personal view is that, in some way, there’s a certain amount of truth in it.
In a typical Asian culture (though the survey was conducted in the West with an unknown sample size), men tend to lead the family, provide for the family and making most of the decisions (I certainly hope that’s true for the guys reading this blog). If the spouse was caught having an affair (Ladies, a tip for you, sing “It Wasn’t Me” by Shaggy), that certainly put a dent deeply to a man’s pride and ego. With the stakes are high, it’s natural to extend his radar to pick up any abnormalities in the spouse’s behaviour.
Next, if both parties do not see each other long/often enough, thoughts tend to run astray and be paranoid about everything. For example, maid issues, I have colleagues and friends that keep on worry about their maid activities back home. Some even installed CCTV to ensure control is still within grasp while others will periodically gave a ring back home to check on them. Thus, I believe, once you can’t get to see something, you tend to be paranoid or skeptical about things may happen. At this point, I do not believe it’s a Mars versus Venus issue but rather a simple common physiological nature.
Lastly, ladies tend to be more emotional and guys steering towards transactional, it will result in a different length of infidelity. The longer you stay in it, the chance of getting caught will increase as well. Thus, that probably explain why guys are better at detecting infidelity, not because man are better but simply the duration of infidelity by ladies are longer that attract unnecessary attention. I know I’m been stereotyping over here (no hard feeling), but dun bash me up for that, I’m just a messenger to spice up your boring day. To sign off, let me dedicate the following music video to all the INFIDELITIES people out there !
What an interesting news article claiming men is better at detecting infidelity ! Does that translate to better prevention of wearing a green hat for the guys ?
My personal view is that, in some way, there’s a certain amount of truth in it.
In a typical Asian culture (though the survey was conducted in the West with an unknown sample size), men tend to lead the family, provide for the family and making most of the decisions (I certainly hope that’s true for the guys reading this blog). If the spouse was caught having an affair (Ladies, a tip for you, sing “It Wasn’t Me” by Shaggy), that certainly put a dent deeply to a man’s pride and ego. With the stakes are high, it’s natural to extend his radar to pick up any abnormalities in the spouse’s behaviour.
Next, if both parties do not see each other long/often enough, thoughts tend to run astray and be paranoid about everything. For example, maid issues, I have colleagues and friends that keep on worry about their maid activities back home. Some even installed CCTV to ensure control is still within grasp while others will periodically gave a ring back home to check on them. Thus, I believe, once you can’t get to see something, you tend to be paranoid or skeptical about things may happen. At this point, I do not believe it’s a Mars versus Venus issue but rather a simple common physiological nature.
Lastly, ladies tend to be more emotional and guys steering towards transactional, it will result in a different length of infidelity. The longer you stay in it, the chance of getting caught will increase as well. Thus, that probably explain why guys are better at detecting infidelity, not because man are better but simply the duration of infidelity by ladies are longer that attract unnecessary attention. I know I’m been stereotyping over here (no hard feeling), but dun bash me up for that, I’m just a messenger to spice up your boring day. To sign off, let me dedicate the following music video to all the INFIDELITIES people out there !
0 comments:
Post a Comment